#SelfCareSaturday: How to Put Yourself First
It’s easy to forget about self-care in a world where people, businesses, and technology are perpetually clamoring for our attention. The constant chatter of notifications, emails, and news updates can become so deafening that we relinquish our own sense of self-awareness and allow that chatter to dictate our likes and dislikes, goals, and day-to-day routine. In the process, however, we may lose sight of our values and of the things in life that really matter to us.
Even though we make it a priority to practice self-care at Trusst, we, too, can overlook this aspect of our lives when we’re busy launching new D+ bras or dreaming up ideas for more high-tech lingerie. And although we couldn’t be happier doing what we do, we’ve also learned the hard way how important it is to prioritize self-care. The truth is, putting yourself first is the opposite of selfish: According to clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Firestone, “If we’re not attuned to who we are and what we want, we can start to make sacrifices that don’t just hurt or limit us, but actually negatively impact those we care for.”
We recently started writing all about self-care on our blog, sharing how we practice self-love here at Trusst. Today, we’re continuing our #SelfCareSaturday series by writing about ways to put yourself first so that you, and the people around you, can thrive:
1. Don’t bite off more than you can chew
Prioritizing self-care begins with managing your schedule. Taking on more than you can handle will cause you massive amounts of stress, in addition to meaning you’ll have less time to spend doing things for yourself or with friends and family. And according to the American Psychological Association, chronic stress can lead to a myriad of health problems, including heart disease, increased risk of a stroke and/or a heart attack, and even diabetes.
The best way to begin managing your schedule is to learn to say “no” to others. It can be difficult to feel as though you’re letting other people down, but it’s important to be honest with them if you want to take care of yourself, as well as to build and strengthen your relationships. To begin, start saying no to the things that you don’t want to do, and be polite, but firm and honest in your response. And if you need to, use the word “because” -- Harvard researcher Ellen Langer found that using this word resulted in compliance, rather than resistance, perhaps because it encouraged empathy.
If you’re someone who likes to tackle a multitude of projects, then it may be time to be firm with yourself and start whittling down your list of commitments to just 2 or 3 things that are manageable and that you’re excited about. In doing this, you’ll be able to invest more time into each one, which is likely to be more meaningful in the long run.
2. Prioritize your personal comfort
Another hugely important part of putting yourself first is refusing to compromise on the things that are important to you, including your personal comfort. Our number one mission here at Trusst is to empower women to feel beautiful and confident in their own skin. We want to create bras that provide you with the support and comfort that you deserve.
At Trusst, we believe it’s important to treat our bodies with love and support -- after all, they do so much for us! Prioritizing your personal satisfaction starts with maximizing your basic, everyday comfort. This is as simple as looking for pillows that cater to your preferred sleeping position, finding shoes that will cushion your feet throughout the busy day, and wearing lingerie that you won’t be itching to rip off as soon as you get home.
We use the Trusst BAST™ system and our antimicrobial, wicking lining as a starting point to create D+ lingerie that will allow you to maximize your personal comfort without sacrificing style or support. You may not be able to purchase a new mattress or a better couch right away, but investing in high-tech, supportive lingerie is a great place to start as you begin to put your comfort first.
3. Turn off your social media.
In our last #SelfCareSaturday, we shared some of the negative effects that technology can have on our bodies and our minds. However, it goes deeper than just the devices we’re using. A recent Bustle article found that social media itself could have numerous harmful effects on our bodies, including a reduced attention span, increased difficulty falling asleep, and a compromised nervous system. Additionally, studies have shown that the use of social media is negatively associated with wellbeing and leads to less meaningful personal interactions.
Social media is more than a distraction. Instead of focusing on our own lives, we become engrossed in curated representations of what others are doing, and this can result in low self-esteem, poor social skills, and narcissism. Turning off your social media, whether that be for a day, a week, or a month, will give you time to reset and focus on the things in your actual -- rather than virtual -- reality that matter to you. Instead of spending time on social media, the Trusst team likes to take at least an hour every weekend to swim at the local YMCA, read a new thriller, or spend time together or with friends and family. It’s a great way to begin reinforcing healthier habits and prepare for the busy week ahead!
4. Do something nice for yourself once a week
You may be busy, but taking care of yourself means treating yourself with kindness and acknowledging all of the incredible things that your body is doing for you. Every week, set aside time to do at least one nice thing for yourself. This can be as simple as taking a walk in the park, or as complex as taking a mini-vacation somewhere you love.
If you have difficulty finding things to do, make a list of 5-10 things that you love to do. Then, dedicate time each week to solely doing one of those things.
5. Ask for help
This may seem counterintuitive at first -- shouldn’t self-care mean becoming more independent? However, self-care isn’t about putting yourself at the center of your universe and going it alone. Rather, it’s about recognizing that prioritizing your wellbeing and fulfilling your emotional needs. It is a crucial part of being the best version of yourself.
Sometimes, that means swallowing your pride and asking for help. You may say “no” to things, set aside time for yourself every day, and shut out distractions, yet still find yourself with a seemingly endless to-do list and what feels like no time to get it all done. Luckily, we live in a world where assisting others is often just as gratifying for the volunteer as it is for the person in need. Learn to ask for help when you need it, whether that be from a friend, babysitter, partner, family member, therapist, or coworker, and accept that help (with gratitude!) when it is given. Admitting you can’t do everything by yourself can feel daunting, but we promise it’ll be worth it in the long run.
At Trusst, we’re constantly learning how to be the best versions of ourselves so that we can continue making revolutionary D+ bras that you love and that support you. We’re excited to keep growing in every aspect of our lives, so keep checking this space to read more on self-care and all things Trusst. And don’t forget to check out our online store or visit our Pittsburgh headquarters to find your new favorite bra and prioritize your personal comfort today!